-
Recent Posts
Archives
Categories
Meta
Tag Archives: Counseling
Arm yourself
Think about the last time life was incredibly tough, you know, one of those times when you remember waking up one day and feeling normal, and thinking about how grateful you are for just feeling normal again. Somehow, you got … Continue reading
Posted in Uncategorized
Tagged Advice, Counseling, Gay, Lesbian, LGBT, Solution Focused, Therapy, Trans
Leave a comment
List It
Think about your current biggest problem, whether it’s something specific to you, your career, your family, your relationship…whatever it is that’s nagging at you most. Now, make a list of 30-50 signs that this problem was solved in a way … Continue reading
Posted in Uncategorized
Tagged Counseling, Couples, Individuals, LGBT, Solution Focused, Therapy
Leave a comment
With the gay and lesbian couples I see, some weeks it seems like I hear a LOT about things not being ‘good enough’, even though there is REMARKABLE progress to report. It’s a kind of glass-half-empty sentiment that is very … Continue reading
Changing the conversation
The difference between a fight, and a constructive conversation, all lies in where you choose to focus. For example, I had a couple in my office recently, and the conversation between them quickly turned argumentative with one accusing the other … Continue reading
Posted in Uncategorized
Tagged Advice, Counseling, Couples, Gay, Lesbian, LGBT, Solution Focused, Therapy, Trans
Leave a comment
For next time
Think for a minute about the last time you got into a heated argument with someone you care about. Now answer this 2 part question: If you now, knowing what you know about how that day and event unfolded, were … Continue reading
Posted in Uncategorized
Tagged Advice, Bi, Counseling, Couples, families, Gay, Lesbian, LGBT, Solution Focused, Therapy, Trans
Leave a comment
The small things…
Sometimes, if you want BIG change, the best way to get it is to start very very small. I had a client who came to me saying that he wanted a whole life shift; he wanted a new home, new … Continue reading
Posted in Uncategorized
Tagged Advice, Counseling, LGBT, SFBT, Solution Focused, Therapy
Leave a comment
The Pendulum
I often use scales in my sessions with clients. Both as a way to identify current placement compared to one’s ‘preferred future’ and as a measure of progress. With the scales that I use, 10 is always the ‘destination’ as … Continue reading
Posted in Uncategorized
Tagged Advice, Bisexual, Counseling, Couples, Gay, Lesbian, LGBT, Therapy, Transgender
Leave a comment
Your Amazing
One of my clients recently sat down on my couch and grabbed one of the pillows I have there, and said…”man..if these pillows could talk, huh?” And I said…”yeah…they would go on and on about all of the amazing people … Continue reading
Posted in Uncategorized
Tagged Advice, Amazing, Bi, Counseling, Gay, Lesbian, LGBT, SFBT, SFT, Solution Focused, Therapy, Trans
2 Comments
When the next step is a big one…
Sometimes, in the process of self-discovery, folks in the LGBT community make realizations about their lives that require some painful honesty with the people that they love most. I frequently have conversations in my counseling office with individuals who are … Continue reading
Posted in Uncategorized
Tagged Advice, Bi, Coming Out, Counseling, Couples, Gay, Lesbian, LGBT, Relationships, SFBT, Solution Focused, Solutions, Therapy, Trans
Leave a comment
In the moment
Recently, my girlfriend and I have had a lot of fun together, and I made a conscience effort to recognize it, talk about it with her, and answer a few questions around it, in hopes that we can recreate it … Continue reading
Posted in Uncategorized
Tagged Advice, Bi, Counseling, Couples, Gay, Lesbian, LGBT, Relationships, SFBT, Solution Focused, Solutions, Therapy, Trans
Leave a comment
"Family" Solutions 