Monthly Archives: July 2013

List It

Think about your current biggest problem, whether it’s something specific to you, your career, your family, your relationship…whatever it is that’s nagging at you most.  Now, make a list of 30-50 signs that this problem was solved in a way … Continue reading

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With the gay and lesbian couples I see, some weeks it seems like I hear a LOT about things not being ‘good enough’, even though there is REMARKABLE progress to report. It’s a kind of glass-half-empty sentiment that is very … Continue reading

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Changing the conversation

The difference between a fight, and a constructive conversation, all lies in where you choose to focus. For example, I had a couple in my office recently, and the conversation between them quickly turned argumentative with one accusing the other … Continue reading

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For next time

Think for a minute about the last time you got into a heated argument with someone you care about.  Now answer this 2 part question: If you now, knowing what you know about how that day and event unfolded, were … Continue reading

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The small things…

Sometimes, if you want BIG change, the best way to get it is to start very very small. I had a client who came to me saying that he wanted a whole life shift; he wanted a new home, new … Continue reading

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Shifting Your Focus

I talk a lot with gay and lesbian couples about their ‘destination’, and every now and then one will point out that the legal destination isn’t the same here in Texas as it is elsewhere, and how incredibly upsetting that … Continue reading

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The Pendulum

I often use scales in my sessions with clients. Both as a way to identify current placement compared to one’s ‘preferred future’ and as a measure of progress. With the scales that I use, 10 is always the ‘destination’ as … Continue reading

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